So you are looking forward to retirement. “Roll on 65,” you say.
Over the four previous issues we introduced this topic and looked at the Big Picture, Health and Finances. Over the next three issues we will continue to expand on what can be a scary season of life for many men and women. As with any season of life you need a life plan and the third age is no different. This season of life should be the most influential and rewarding.
So the BIG CHANGING ENVIRONMENT PICTURE is:
DISRESPECT FROM YOUNGER PERSONS
Over recent years, our society has trained young people to think for themselves, seek information from Dr Google and by default the wisdom of older people is ignored, as we are deemed to be behind the times. While younger people’s actions can seem disrespectful, sometimes it is a reflection of the environment. As an example - when children have their own kids, they will consult Dr Google before they ask for advice from their parents. The “wisdom of living life well” has been overlooked.
Entering the third age is a good time to review current housing. Is a multi-storied house, a half-acre section, a house on the side of a hill, a house with 5 bedrooms the right choice now? As part of my plan and budget for retirement, should I downsize my home, or move to a cheaper location, to release capital to live better in the third age?
At some time in the third age a couple will experience a season of increased caring for the other (or there may be multiple seasons). The marriage vow that used to be in vogue “until death do us part” will be put to the test in this season. Talk about it with your partner.
The third age is marked with more frequent instances of losing people (friends, siblings, wider family, spouse/partner) who are precious to you. One has to learn to grieve well and healthily. If you are struggling with a bereavement, get help. There is a season to grieve but there is a season to move on and live.
As you enter the third age it is a season to ensure both spouses/partners can live well when a bereavement happens to one member. Typically men will need to learn how to cook quality meals for themselves, clean the house, do washing and look after their health. Women need to know all about routine house and vehicle maintenance, finances and insurance. Both parties need to know all the passwords! It is a season to mentor each other in areas where duties may have been segregated.
Questions to ponder